Our Dad: He’d Rather Have Jesus

The following are excerpts from an earlier post honoring Dad when he turned 80. It’s five years later now, and Dad continues to live up to these things; and so, for Father’s Day, I’m reposting this tribute that still has yet to go stale…and likely never will.


imageIt is said of only a select few in the scriptures that their names were “esteemed” in heaven. That smallish lot earned such praise because they obeyed God faithfully, served humbly and led principled, exemplary lives. Dad, we’ve no doubt your name is well-spoken of from one end of glory to the other, and this is our attempt to fittingly esteem your life on this side of eternity. And what a life it has been! Like Abraham, Job and David, your days have been full and your years have known the richness of a life greatly lived.

Eighty years ago, you were born beneath the thickening clouds of Great Depression yet the little boy with glacier-blue eyes and a mop of sandy-blonde hair atop his head smiled mischievously in the face of hard times and rose above with l’esprit de la vie beautifully marked by resilience, gusto, grit and the grace of God. The sorrows and difficulties of those early years only emblazoned the stuff of greatness deep in your being and tempered sensitivity and kindness from your heart. How blessed are we to say to the world: this man is our Dad!

You are a man of few words yet your life is a library of reference for splendid living. Not long ago, a man who was gifted with a golden tongue said “I talk and talk and talk, and I haven’t taught people in fifty years what my father taught by example in one week.” Hear, hear. We have learned much from your life, Dad. You are a living epistle of true wisdom that fits beautifully in your children’s hands. The cover is tenderly worn, the edges have gone from crisp to aged and the pages are dog-eared but only because there is so much of your life that is worth bookmarking. So much legacy to mine and plumb.

The Psalmist says, “The entrance of Thy words giveth light” (Psalm 119:130) to which your life, Dad, eloquently testifies. Each of us kids remember that same early morning liturgy rehearsed again and again across the years and how it has planted in us the hunger to know God more through the sacred scriptures.

There you sit, at the breakfast table, always before the early rays of morning gild the edges of the quiet pre-dawn, your head bowed over the Book of books; black coffee steams in a mug at your elbow but before a spoonful of cereal is raised to your mouth, God gets you first. This is how the morning greeted us! Could any other legacy be more necessary for a child? You read as though you were consuming food, for indeed you were, and your inner life glowed hotter than even the day before and not quite as much as it would the following morning. You read so the words would cleanse your soul and send you into the day with a vitality that was not your own.

Each day, every week, month after month and across the expanding bridge of decades, your life has gone up to God as a sweet savor of incense.  It might seem a strange thing to say of a grown man that he is sweet, and yet it so perfectly speaks of you. All who have ever known you, Dad, would agree when the record of your life is tallied, you come up a very sweet man. Sweet, as in, endearing. Winsome. Grace-filled. Affable. Kind.

Dad and my sisters Susan (l), and Karen (r)
Dad and my sisters Susan (l), and Karen (r)

Handsome, young and fresh out of the Air Force, it was 1953 and you made an amazing, life-changing discovery. Trapped inside a set of revolving doors at the YMCA of Harvey, Illinois, was a beautiful brunette that caught your eye. You tried to strike up a conversation with her but found her aloof and uninterested. Today, your kids are giddy with delight that you did not let this deter you. You Romancer you! You finally swept her off her feet and barely a year later, you married Mom on a glorious spring day, for richer and for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death should separate you. A long and lasting home was established, beginning with the arrival of your firstborn, eleven months later.

That home became a little slice of heaven on earth, rooted and grounded in godliness, when you were gloriously reborn! Thank God for that little mission church in Calumet City that you, Mom and your little girl began attending, and thank God for the “angel that led you to the Lord”! That angel, of course, was Pastor Wayne Angel, and he saw you in that pew, trembling there under deep conviction, and he walked back to where you were standing, asked if you were ready to surrender your life to Jesus, and you said yes. Bless you, Dad, for saying yes!

In a society of dysfunctional families, it has been our singular fortune to not only be blessed with a Dad, but a very good Dad, a doting Dad with firm hand and loving heart, a godly Dad who has lived only to see his children say yes to Jesus also and establish their homes in Christ. Thank you, Dad, for caring enough to point out the way to us. We, too, have been led to the Lord by an angel.

And when we’ve heard you sing your testimony with songs like “I’d Rather Have Jesus” or “The Love of God” and “How Great Thou Art” in that deep, rich, bass voice of yours, we’ve heard what angels must sound like when they praise the Lamb who sits on the Throne. We know our Father in glory beams when He hears you sing. We sure do…

Happy [Father’s] Day, Dad.

May You hear the heavens sing over you this day.

(1929-still going strong)

10 Things Your Thanksgiving Table Needs

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What will be at your table today?

Like 90% of Americans, you’ll likely go traditional, serving turkey, mashed and sweet potatoes, dressing, cranberry sauce, perhaps a casserole of either beans, squash, sweet potatoes – or all three! Then, of course, topping it all off with the famous pumpkin and/or pecan pies.

It’s not likely your table will resemble the first thanksgiving meal in 1621. That three-day feast, shared between pilgrims from England and Wampanoag native Americans, featured duck, goose, mussels, lobster, hollowed out pumpkins filled with milk, honey and spices, formed into a custard then roasted in an earth oven; turnips, corn mush sweetened with molasses, onions, beans, turnips; gooseberries, raspberries and grapes…and, maybe, just maybe, a few wild turkeys.

I thought today we might center around the other factors of this beloved holiday feast: what happens around the table, besides just the eating part.

Let’s zero in on 10 things that could elevate your dinner to an even higher, more memorable, place.

Let’s talk etiquette.

No, not which fork you start with, or what that sideways utensil at the top of your plate is for; not about napkins on the lap or elbows on the table, or the proper serving size. Or whether you pass clockwise or counter-clockwise.

No, not that kind of etiquette.

Let’s talk etiquette of the heart.

Let’s talk about how the redeemed grow together and relate to one another as true family.

What’s Around The Table of the Redeemed?

  1. Centerpiece

  2. – points to CHRIST, make Him attractive; make Him the point; don’t make Him just a small part of your day, make Him the main point of the day; make Jesus the cornucopia of your fellowship

    2 Corinthians 4:7 – Jesus is the bounty in the horn of bounty!

    This day is not about you grandstanding, soap boxing, grabbing the spotlight and being the center of attention.

    Find the Jesus in the ones around the table and nurture that in your conversation.

  3. Head Chair

  4. – who serves?

    Matthew 23:6-11

    The Norman Rockwell iconic painting “Freedom from Want” has the Dad wearing the suit reaching for the carving utensils. He’s the head of the household and yet he’s given to the role of serving the turkey.

    In the economy of the Kingdom, we would do well to remember the ones with delegated power are the ones with the responsibility to humble themselves to work for those with none. Pastors aren’t celebrities, they’re servants. Bosses aren’t bossy, they’re busy…making sure their charges are exceeding their own expectations. Husbands aren’t ruling over their wives, they’re laying down their lives for their wives…

  5. Place-Settings

  6. – tables and settings are usually set up for even numbers; make your table ‘odd’ or uneven as a reminder you don’t belong in the family either, but grace has set a place for you, too.

    Your reservation is waiting…

    Luke 14:22-24

  7. Meat

  8. – this represents the rich and awesome, sometimes deep and often heavy, doctrines of God. We need to encourage our brothers and sisters to leave the paper plates and smaller helpings at the kids’ table, and to dive into the meatier offerings of the Life. You can find such in the apostolic writings and in the types and shadows of Messiah in the old scriptures.

    Hebrews 5:12-14

  9. Veggies

  10. These complement the rich foods that lie heavy on the soul and mind. These edify and strengthen the saints.

    Romans 14:19
    Hebrews 10:24 – think “stir up, whip up” potatoes!
    1 Corinthians 14:26 – look at these as a vegetable medley!

    Veggies prevent cancers, obesity, high blood pressure, eye diseases, bodily infections; provide fiber, vitamins, potassium, iron, contain no cholesterol, etc. They’re the perfect compliment to the meats of rich doctrine, and they’ll be found in the psalms, gospels and parts of the epistles

  11. Salt

  12. – salt as a covenant of peace

    Mark 9:50
    Ephesians 4:3

    The exchange of salt was an ancient symbol of friendship and even marriage commitment. If salt was left outside, in the elements, it would spoil and be useless. It needs to be guarded, shielded, covered, protected, like all our relationships.

  13. Seasoning

  14. – conversation among family, words of grace

    Colossians 4:6
    Proverbs 16:24

    ‘Seasoned with salt‘ meant be interesting, tactful, engaging; we are often guilty of benign, insipid conversation.

    Don’t drone on and be boring. If you’re not a skilled conversationalist, talk less, listen more.

    Say things that spark enlightenment, give encouragement, offer revelation, proffer instruction. Enough of meaningless small talk! And no long soliloquies and bloviated one-sided teaching, either! Sometimes verbal tweeting is perfect dialogue mechanics!

    A 17th century nun prayed:
    (language updated)

    Lord, You know me better than I know myself that I am growing older and will someday be old. Keep me from the fatal habit of thinking I must say something on every subject and on every occassion. Release me from the craving to straighten out everybody’s affairs. Make me thoughtful, but not moody. Helpful, but not bossy. With my vast store of wisdom, it seems a pity not to use it all, but You know, Lord, I want a few friends at the end. Keep my mind free from the endless recital of details; give me wings to get to the point. Seal my lips on my aches and pains. They are increasing, and love of rehearsing them is becoming sweeter as the years go by. I dare not ask for grace enough to enjoy the tales of others’ pains, but help me to endure them with patience. I dare not ask for improved memory, but for a growing humility and a lessening cocksureness when my memory seems to clash with the memories of others. Teach me the glorious lesson that occassionally, I may be mistaken. Keep me reasonably sweet. I do not want to be a saint – some of them are so hard to live with. But a sour old person is one of the crowning works of the devil. Give me the ability to see good things in unexpected places, and talents in unexpected people. And give me, Lord, the grace to tell them so. Amen

  15. Bread

  16. – sharing my livelihood and plenty with my brothers and sisters; generosity

    1 John 3:17
    Romans 12:13

    The Romans text, “show hospitality”, means to be fond of (friend of) guests, aliens, and strangers.

    Our English translations make it two separate ideas: share with the saints…and also practice hospitality. But Paul is saying ‘when you share with each other, hospitality is fulfilled’ or ‘you show hospitality whenever you share’ – not only money, but to share joys and sorrows as well.

  17. Wine

    – sweet fellowship; intimate communion

    Remember when Jesus served uber wine to the wedding guests long after the party had begun and the wine had played out?

    When His is served, the guests marvel that the host would save the best for last when it was customary to serve the very best initially.

    Our takeaway is to offer the 100-proof wine of Jesus’ Life to one another at all times, on all occasions, never withholding.

    Romans 12:10 – outdo each other…with wine-fellowship!

    All too often, this is the sentiment among the church homies:

    To live be above, with saints we love
    That will be glory!
    To live below, with saints we know
    That’s another story!

    Let’s turn that into:

    Blessed be the tie that binds
    Our hearts in Christian love;
    The fellowship of kindred minds
    Is like to that above.

  18. Second (and Third) Helpings

  19. – recognizing the generous blessings of God

    Read Romans 5:9-17 carefully and underline ALL the “much more” and “more than” phrases. It’s a beautiful way to see that our salvation is a MORE THAN salvation, always more, constantly blessing, taking us from heaping helping to heaping helping of glorious grace!

    To draw to an end (so I’m not grandstanding, soap-boxing and bloviating), let me offer this moving tribute to those who first settled our shores. Be blessed to know that – in their less than ideal situation of death and disease – they never forgot the MORE THAN of their salvation, that His love was more than enough to conquer their sadness and give them pause…to be overwhelmingly thankful.

    May His grace bring this to your remembrance as well.

    The Pilgrims made seven times more graves than huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who, nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving.
    ~ H.U. Westermayer

    Selah, fellow pilgrims.

    Thoughts? Comments? Testimony?

Sunday Podcast: Thanksgiving Table Etiquette

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Podcast Running Time: 21m, 12s

What will be at your table this Thursday? Like 90% of Americans, you’ll likely go traditional, serving turkey, mashed and sweet potatoes, dressing, cranberry sauce, perhaps a casserole of either beans, squash, sweet potatoes – or all three! Then, of course, topping it all off with the famous pumpkin and/or pecan pies.

It’s not likely your table will resemble the first thanksgiving meal in 1621…

Let’s zero in on 10 things that could elevate your dinner to an even higher, more memorable, event…biblically speaking.

These are a few of the Scriptures we’ll be considering on this week’s podcast as we look at our metaphorical table from every angle:

Matthew 23:6,11 (BBE)
And the things desired by them are the first places at feasts…But let the greatest among you be your servant.

Romans 12:13 (ESV)
Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.

Luke 14:23 (The Voice Bible)
And the host said, “Well then, go out to the highways and hedges and bring in the complete strangers you find there, until my house is completely full.”

2 Corinthians 4:7 (ESV)
But we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us.

Romans 5:9-17 (ESV)
Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life. More than that, we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation…For if many died through one man’s trespass, much more have the grace of God and the free gift by the grace of that one man Jesus Christ abounded for many…For if, because of one man’s trespass, death reigned through that one man, much more will those who receive the abundance of grace and the free gift of righteousness reign in life through the one man Jesus Christ.